Well then, you know life doesn’t just hum along without a hiccup here and there right? My dad asked that I come help, mom has been in the hospital for 10 days now. I’ve been on standby, holding off until my help will be most useful. It’s hard not to feel guilty as I have been going to Christmas parties and enjoying the holidays.
Off to Florida. Here I am in the hospital room with my mom. She is old and trying to recover from a nasty bout of flu. Her airways might be loaded with mucous and she is on and off with being able to keep food and medication down. She is too weak to get out of bed. This is going to take time to heal. My dad does not have patience, this is just not a quick load up on fluids and your good to go. I scheduled my return for 1 week, hoping that she gets better and that my stay will be long enough. While I’m hopeful, it isn’t likely that she will be recovered by then. My dad really wants the doctors to fix her, in this case, I believe her own body needs time to repair. So, how to convince my dad of this?
How best can I serve? Well, the first thing is to sit in this chair watching mom sleep and talk to the parade of care givers, doctors, nurses, aides about what my mom is like when she is well. And to help advocate to get her on the recovery path as they are constantly messing with her neuro meds given the issue with keeping them down. This will give my dad some well needed rest and I’m happy I can do that for him. I was able to feed her last night and struggled to keep her head upright, trying the best I can to let gravity assist the digestion process. Fortunately I have patience and the entire meal took an hour to down.
Today she sleeps, I got here at 7AM and was told she was up at 5AM. No amount of yelling, shaking or anything will get her up. Time.
How to stay positive? First, believe. I know whose hands this situation as any is in. Every day I remain thankful for the many wonderful parts of life. Service must be a part of life and I must do my part.
Remain teachable and keep your eyes open. Keep curious, there is always something to be learned. Be kind to others. Be helpful wherever you can. Look around at the amazing gifts around you. We need each other to help sustain life. I’m so thankful to my friends who are encouraging. And finally take time for yourself, even if it’s a small amount, do something enjoyable and savor every bit of it. For me, that was eating out last night. I thoroughly enjoyed my dinner after not eating at all the entire day. And I will need to work in a run at some point…it’s a MUST!!!!!!!
The caregivers are really trying and I appreciate all that they do to try to help my mom. I’m so thankful for them because this would really be tough to do at home.